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6 Bad Relationship Moves That You Think Are Acceptable
Unless your parents had a great relationship and made a point of teaching you the tricks of the trade, you’ve had to go it alone. However, just “winging it” isn’t always the most effective way to learn something as important and potentially life-changing as relationship skills.
There are several techniques for dealing with relationship conflict that appear to be effective, but are not. These techniques ultimately serve the purpose of making you feel better in the short-term at the expense of the long-term prospects of the relationship.
Avoid these common relationship mistakes:
1. Using gifts as medicine. Got caught having an affair? Take your partner on a tropical vacation. Is he mad at you for allowing your mother to move in without a discussion? Let him get that sports car he’s always wanted.
Covering up relationship issues with money and exciting diversions doesn’t last. The same problem comes back, only a little stronger next time.
2. Relying on hints as an effective form of communication. Sometimes, your partner won’t get the message. Other times, they get the message, but resent that you’re dropping hints instead of stating your desires directly.
