Even though you may not think much about it, it always feels good when someone takes the time and makes the effort to help you feel better about yourself. Whether it’s a compliment, gesture or facial expression, it feels great to know someone is considering your feelings.
Have you ever thought about making an effort to strengthen your partner’s self-esteem? It’s important to demonstrate your love and affection with actions that help increase your partner’s positive feelings about himself or herself.
Try these strategies to raise your partner’s self-esteem:
1. Notice the little things your partner does for you. Does he always open doors for you or pull out your chair when dining out? Perhaps she consistently asks what you’d like to have for dinner.
Say something like, “Wow, that was so nice” or “I really appreciate a beautiful woman cooking and serving a meal for me” to boost your partner’s feelings about herself.
2. Take delight in your partner’s presence. Even at the busiest, most hectic times, stop what you’re doing to acknowledge your partner’s presence. Greet each other with love and care. Your partner will feel great when you pay more attention to him than to anyone else in the room.
3. Compliment something they do well. Does she set the most beautiful table when guests are coming for dinner? Does he always clean your car inside and out, making it look like new? Compliment these gestures of love from your partner. After all, not everyone can do what he does as well as he does it. Let him know that.
4. Notice when he really enjoys doing a task or other activity. For example, say something like,“I can tell that you had a great time helping Jack paint his house today. You did a fantastic job!” Your positive comments to your partner about what you notice about him serve to shore up some extra self-esteem.
Plus, your remarks will cause your partner to reflect on what he was doing and recognize, “Hey, yeah, I really do enjoy doing that and I’m good at it! I’m going to make some plans to do it again soon.”