7 Common Warning Signs Of A Toxic Relationship

Sara Knick
3 min readSep 13, 2021
Photo by jurien huggins on Unsplash.

A toxic relationship can suck the life right out of you. Some people have a long history of getting themselves into toxic relationships and staying far too long.

What exactly is a toxic relationship?

Here’s one explanation from the book, “Toxic People” (1995) by Dr. Lillian Glass:

“Any relationship between people who don’t support each other, where there’s conflict and one seeks to undermine the other, where there’s competition, where there’s disrespect and a lack of cohesiveness.”

Does that sound like any of your past or present relationships?

Consider these commonalities found in toxic relationships:

1. Controlling behavior. Toxic relationships often have an element of control.

Does your partner always have to have everything their way?

Does she insist on going with you when you spend time with your friends?

Does he always need to be the center of attention?

Does she refuse to accept blame even when it’s obviously her fault?

Does your partner limit whom you’re allowed to see or when?

2. Distrust. Demanding to know where you are and with whom is a prime example of mistrust.

Are you really going to spend time with your mother? He might just drive by to see if you’re telling the truth.

Does your partner doubt everything you say?

Is your word never good enough?

Does your partner track your location with a phone app?

Does your partner quiz you to try to catch you in a lie?

Do you have to justify yourself all of the time?

3. Justifying your partner’s behavior.

Do you have to explain away your partner’s behavior to your friends and family even though you know deep down there’s no justification for the way your partner acts?

Is your partner rude and disrespectful to you in front of your friends and family?

4. Physical or verbal abuse. Any abuse is unacceptable. If your partner is abusing you in any way, respect yourself…