Are You Being Manipulated In Your Love Life?

There are those out there that have certain end goals in mind. It may be that you have something that the other person wants. Maybe it is good to know you because you provide something that no one else can for the time being.

People want to be loved and feel good about themselves, but sometimes those people giving compliments or creating those fairytale moments are doing it for other reasons. Sometimes you think you are getting what you want and that things are going great because the other side is fulfilling a role that you desired, but when they decide to move on or leave, you are left feeling confused and unsure about what it all meant.

Maybe a relationship did not develop the way that you had hoped. Perhaps you did not notice the red flags earlier, but now see that there is manipulation happening. Now, you are trapped and dreading dealing with the person that you wound up with!

The Time website recognizes manipulation as “an emotionally unhealthy psychological strategy used by people who are incapable of asking for what they want and need in a direct way.” I think that is a great definition. It is a tactic used out of fear and to serve the self. If you are serving the self and putting the self first before the relationship, you will lack the genuine connection.

The Wikihow website goes over three steps to put yourself first in recognizing a manipulative relationship. The first step is being honest with yourself. If you aren’t, you will attract the energy of dishonesty automatically. The second step is reflecting on how your partner makes you feel. The third step is looking at the rest of your relationships. If you are uncertain if you are dealing with a manipulative person, the Law Of Attraction website goes over five signs of a manipulative person and how to spot him or her. The first sign is that they will guilt trip you. The second sign is that they will undermine your confidence. The third sign is they will never accept the blame. The fourth sign is that they will often change the subject. The fifth sign is that they will rationalize their behavior.

If you have ever dealt with a manipulative person in a relationship and have moved on from your life, you will know that it is not easy! This type of person is self serving. He or she acts in a way where you are a piece in their game. There is no reasoning with a manipulative person. They don’t have a genuine basis of operation in their lives set up. This person may have even left you and continued on with their lives unbothered.

Our intuition is the strongest asset that we have in a relationship. It functions without words. It is there all the time. If you feel that there is something wrong, there probably is. Maybe you really genuinely cared for someone and this person is not responding in a genuine, authentic way back. You deserve more.

We are learning all the time as humans. When we have new knowledge, we learn new lessons. We change our perspectives and points of view with new experiences. If someone does not have your best interests at heart, it is time to let go of that connection. Sometimes maturity is learned later for some people.