Are You Not Allowing Yourself To Leave An Abusive Relationship?

I talked to an older gentleman a couple of years back. He started telling me that he was helping his sister move her things because the man that she was married to passed away. He was telling me how he was a bad guy and didn’t treat his sister well. She ended up turning to hoarding in order to cope.

People enjoy gravitating towards the feeling of being comfortable and familiar, but if people around them and their surroundings are not helping them be better or help them achieve something worthwhile, they will stay the same and gradually decline. In choosing to stay in an abusive relationship, you are saying that you will stay even if it hurts you. You will lose the feeling of respect for yourself. Because you’d have set no boundaries for your protection, you’d be subject to being harmed and it could escalate quickly based on your partner’s emotional state. You accept the feeling of worthlessness and being without hope. It becomes part of who you are.

In an abusive relationship, you may be feeling that you are broken down. Because you’ve chosen to stay, you’ve accepted the consequences. You may feel like you deserve any verbal abuse or physical abuse that comes your way from your partner because you didn’t do something right or because there are certain things about you that were brought up by your partner that…