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Attachment Theory In Relationships
Have you ever jumped from relationship to relationship every few months wondering why you can’t find the perfect partner? Or maybe you’ve been left wondering why the partners you choose are always emotionally unavailable.
What if you knew that your relationship choices and the way you attach to others has been established since you were in the womb?
Attachment theory identifies the way you relate to and depend on others. Attachment theory also shows the patterns of how we show up in our relationships.
How does the way you attach to others affect your relationships today?
Although there is a lot of nuance and variability that goes into defining your individual attachment style, there are three general styles of attachment:
1. Avoidant. People with this attachment style see intimacy as a loss of independence. Because they see dependence or needing others as a weakness, they subconsciously tend to find fault in their relationships. Avoidants want to be close, but push potential partners away as a means of protecting themselves.
Shift your belief: sharing experiences and closeness with others can bring happiness and meaning to your life.
2. Anxious. People with this attachment style crave physical and emotional closeness. Because they…
