Be Truthful With Your Partner: Don’t Go Behind Your Partner’s Back And Do Online Dating

Back around 2012–2013, I was working as a massage therapist. When the massage therapists were waiting for appointments, we would hang out and talk. One of the massage therapists started talking about her boyfriend and then proceeded to show me a picture of him. As soon as I had seen the picture, I was a bit shocked and embarrassed for her. I knew that I had to say something because I would have wanted to know if the person that I was with was being dishonest with me. I told her that he had messaged me online and was on an online dating site. She was in disbelief and said that he would never do that.

I desire the truth at all times, but some people can’t take the truth. The truth can appear to be painful if it isn’t what we thought it was. When people that we truly care about and that we love make decisions that hurt our feelings, we can be in a state of shock or embarrassment at first. Over time, we can feel anxiety or depression.

If we stay in a state of disbelief and shock, but don’t investigate or look into something when it doesn’t seem right to us, we lose. We choose to stay ignorant for the sake of “protecting” our feelings. A situation can get worse because of our decision to not look at the facts or consider new information presented to us.