Being Single Does Not Mean That You Are Unlovable

I had been single for many years. In school, I preoccupied myself with reading and other activities. Social events were not fun for me. They felt like torture. I realized at a young age that I was not going to “settle” and spend my time in ways that I didn’t want to. I knew what enjoyment felt like and if I couldn’t find someone to enjoy my time with then I would rather spend that time alone. Some people might think that this is unhealthy, but if you don’t learn this then how can you find your inner strength and peace in singlehood if you don’t spend time with yourself?

A lot of the times people want to be accepted in love, but they still will be rejected at points in their lives. Everyone can’t love you 100% of the time. It is unrealistic to expect acceptance at every turn in life. Perspectives are different. Needs and wants with people are different. Dealing with the emotional and mental effects of rejection can feel harsh to us and difficult to overcome.

If we’ve been rejected several times in love or in life, we can learn not to pursue love in any capacity. The rejection sits with us and we feel like we will just experience rejection if we try to pursue any love interest again. Mentally, we learn to fail before we ever give ourselves new chances.