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Do You Have Realistic Expectations For Your Partner?
A big part of having a successful relationship is maintaining reasonable expectations. When your expectations are unreasonable, they will frequently go unmet. When someone fails to live up to your expectations, you become upset and angry.
Having realistic expectations will enhance your relationship. Avoid believing in these unrealistic ideas:
1. My partner should be able to read my mind. We’re all guilty of this at times. We believe that if our partner genuinely cared and was a good fit for us, they would be able to figure out what we want and need. Unfortunately, this simply isn’t true.
Help yourself out by letting your partner know what you need from them. At the same time, ask what your partner needs from you. You’ll both be better off and happier.
2. Zero fighting. No relationship is 100% smooth sailing. You’re two different people with two different set of beliefs and ways of viewing the world. Your needs and interests don’t match 100%. Your likes and dislikes aren’t exactly the same. There will be disagreements with any relationship.
3. The right partner will make my life perfect. There are benefits to having a partner. There are disadvantages, too. Expect that some parts of your life are likely to improve while others may slip a notch or two. No…
