Fall In Love With What You Do
There are so many possible uses for your time. I’ve been in jobs that I’ve hated. I’ve been in jobs that I’ve loved for particular reasons. I fell in and out of love with hobbies. I still have a lot of passions that have stuck with me. If you don’t love what you do, you are the only one that can change that.
People want to feel happy and content for the most part, but are fearful of change or making the wrong decisions. Sometimes people stay stuck in patterns because it feels comfortable. The unknown is just that… the unknown. There are no guaranteed end results in the unknown. A lot of people would like to be able to predict what is going to happen and not risk loss. Fear, panic, anxiety, doubt and depression can set in if someone chooses to change their activities on a drastic level.
An article entitled, “Science Says This Is Why You Fear Change (and What to Do About It)” by Scott Mautz for the Inc. website talks about how neuroscience research has revealed to us that our brains treat uncertainty like errors. We want to feel comfortable and certain. This means that people will go towards patterns and predictability. Maybe this means sticking to a schedule that they’ve had at work for years. This could mean living in a certain location just because they know it and it is familiar to them. Happiness and passion may be sacrificed all in the name of uncertainty.
Being in the energy of love and happiness in what you do will extend to other areas of your life. You carry the responsibility to make the changes that are necessary for your happiness and success. You cannot expect your partner to change your job. You cannot expect your partner to find your passions. It is more of a gamble to not do what you love and enjoy. If you stay stuck in patterns, you will never grow, reach what you want to achieve or feel fulfilled.
In your job or career, you should know your worth and what you can add to the work that you do in exchange for money. In your health, you should feel like you have energy by taking action to eat well and do physical activity. If you have health concerns, you should be taking care of them by taking the advice of trusted professionals. In your personal life, you should be involved in your interests and have people that support you in your success. If there are changes that you personally want to make, those are yours to make.
Sometimes if we are unhappy, we look outside of ourselves for solutions to make us satiated. Perhaps we like to get out of the house and shop if we’re bored or want to escape housework. Perhaps we guilt our partner into buying us things that we may or may not absolutely need if we are feeling unhappy with ourselves. If we are dissatisfied with how things are going in certain areas of our life, it is easier to avoid it. It may be easier to burden our partner instead.
One person can only handle so much. A successful relationship recognizes that each person has their own responsibilities. One person should not be blamed for another’s problems or difficulties. Support and encouragement is helpful in times of trouble, but ultimately each individual’s success is up to that individual.
Learning to love and master areas of your life is a lesson in itself. We should recognize which responsibilities belong to which person. You cannot blame another person for your unhappiness or else you will remain unhappy. In a hypothetical situation, if you were not in a relationship and could do anything that you wanted, what would you be doing? What kind of life would you create? Answering these questions alone will help to bring you back to the path of happiness and falling in love with what you do.
