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Let me tell you a story…

I was younger and more naive. I saw the best in everything. This was when I hadn’t started dating and I hadn’t been used several different times for various things…

I desired to acquire reciprocity in any relationship that I was in. I wanted to know that if I gave of my resources, whether emotional, material or otherwise, that I would get something back in return. It was only fair. The issue was that I didn’t know who to trust. I had a guy tell me one thing, but never take action and do what he said.

There was one day when I drove all the way to see a guy… it was a drive lasting between two to three hours just to see him. When I got there, he was not really into it or grateful of my visit. I should have just let it go and turned back home and ended it then. Nothing good would have come out of me visiting when he wasn’t happy or thrilled to see me.

I realized that I would end up in a cycle of being led on. A guy would give very little of himself to see what I would give to him in return.

I decided to separate words from actions in terms of my love relationships. I would assess myself. Are his words actually lining up to his actions? What is the effort being put forth? Do I feel like things are fair between us? Do I feel cheated in terms of my time, energy or efforts?

Love can make the lines blurred at times and make it seem like everything’s okay just because of an emotion that we are tied attached to. At times, because I am human and I am not excluded from the human race, I would either let my emotions get the best of me or act out of curiosity with no particular result in mind. It would be confusing and complicated when I found myself feeling worse off than when I began a date. I would go into a date thinking, “What does this guy think of me?” or “I wonder what would happen” with no clear objective.

I learned to tune into my emotions to see what I could do to feel self sufficient. I learned to assess another guy’s energy to see if I actually wanted to hang out with him or not. I learned to cut out the nonsense and focus on my goals only after so many unwanted emotions and events had happened.

Emotions can take hold of you when you’re depressed, anxious, lonely, or lost, but I didn’t let them control me. I learned to master them and move forward using more logic. If I could balance my emotions and hitting my objectives then I would have it made.