Holiday Reflections: Online Dating During The Holidays

Years ago I had been accustomed to online dating. I knew successful relationships that started with online dating from people that I knew. The avenues of online dating that I used were many including Tinder, Zoosk, PlentyOfFish, OkCupid, Bumble and some other ones that were chat/messenger based, but geared towards making friends.

I wanted to find someone like me, but I was very unique in my approach to life and did not have a lot in common with those my age in my twenties. I couldn’t connect to certain guys that were my age because of major differences in life choices and circumstances. I felt hopeless as if I would not be recognized and that I was far behind in life and would never be able to “catch up.”

When guys would ask me what was going on or what I was doing, I would open up about so many things that I could not deal with or handle in my life. Life was too much and there were so many difficulties that I had not overcome yet. Opening myself up to guys and letting them know what I had been going through usually pushed them away. They didn’t care. I would get ghosted. I would get used to the feeling of disconnection and not being valued for the person that I knew that I was.

I realized that revealing too much about myself in the beginning of meeting someone left the other person overwhelmed. They…