How To Overcome A Loss Of Sex Drive In A Relationship

Sara Knick
3 min readOct 14, 2020

The initial excitement of being in a relationship is enough to cause desire of your partner sexually over the first few months and years. As time goes by, having a loss of sex drive is a common issue that can happen within a relationship. One partner can also desire sexual activity more than the other.

Men and women desire excitement and newness, but time can pass and we fall into routines that we become used to in our relationships. Because we have chosen one person to be with in a relationship, that factor remains the same and if we stop creating excitement through the types of activities that we engage in, we will start to feel that sex is a chore, become bored or feel a lack of desire or engagement with our partner. It may feel like we are trapped or unable to express ourselves sexually.

Illnesses, hormone changes, your state of mind and relationship issues all contribute to a low sex drive. If you are dealing with a serious medical issue or high stress, you will not feel resolve and sex will be the last thing on your mind. If you have an unresolved conflict with your partner, you will not want to connect with him or her because you have associated your partner with an undesirable feeling for a time. If you don’t feel sexy, the last thing you will want to do is engage in sex.

Resolve the conflicts that may arise so you have a baseline of trust and friendship to work off of with your partner. Create excitement and newness within your current relationship in what you…