How Can We Judge The Relationship As Successful Or Not?

One of my Facebook friends messaged me yesterday asking me the question, “How can we judge the relationship as successful or not?” What’s tricky about relationships is that there is no visible gauge of statistics that you can analyze to see how well it is doing. It is all based on your own feelings and emotions.

People desire successful relationships, but the gauges that can be used to judge whether their relationships are successful or not may not be fulfilling for their own souls. Whenever we go into questioning mode about what it is that we want instead of being committed to the truth in how we feel, we veer off into confusion and a lack of clarity.

If we are judging the success of our relationships based on others’ judgements, we will continue to experience a lack of satisfaction that will seem never ending. People change and their judgments and opinions can change as well.

If we have not committed ourselves to answers based on what we need or want in a relationship and have stuck to those answers, our answers will continually change. Success in our own relationship is determined first by our capacity to understand what we are trying to gain from that relationship. Secondly, our relationship success is determined by our ability to say “no” to that which doesn’t serve us or provide satisfaction…