How Do You Date Your Best Friend?

It takes time to get to know someone. It’s true when you hear that living with a person is much different than just seeing them. In my experience, the person that you think is your best friend may have other sides to them that you may not even know about.

I wanted to be with my perfect partner for life. I felt that the many setbacks like perceived lost time in my younger years and wasted time with guys that weren’t serious sent me into a dark hole of despair. I felt extremely hopeless and alone knowing that I had no one that would be there for me.

There were some times that the more that I found out about the other guy, the more I felt that it was not going to work out in the long term. Those relationships ended.

I felt the energy and emotions of the other person. I gauged his responses towards me. I made decisions based on that to move forward or not.

I looked at and examined his actions over his words. What was he saying to me? Was he following through? What were his actions towards me? I distinguished his actions from his words. This was integral in my success moving forward in my own relationship.

I found that there were guys who would say lots of lovely things, but would not back up those words with actions. I also found that when I became uncomfortable with a guy that the energy of the relationship became rigid and closed off. I ended the relationships in both of these scenarios.

Best friends come and go. You may have a best friend for a certain time in your life and then that person moves on. I looked for a guy with qualities that I needed… honesty, integrity, intelligence and loyalty.

I learned that sometimes you may have the best intentions, but the other person may have their own baggage and blockages. It is up to you to decide if you want to continue being with that person or to forge new relationships. I feel that in one way or another, if we decide to leave a relationship, we aren’t really “leaving” that person, we are recognizing that the energy present isn’t serving us. We are connected by a universal consciousness that connects everything. We chose our paths. Our choices have a lot to do with what energy we receive.