How Do You Deal With Early Stages Of Dating?

When I was in the early stages of dating, I was in my twenties. I had not had many experiences with guys in school or in my teenage years. I was hopeful and very much inexperienced in dating.

I wanted to have everything turn out perfect and going my way. I felt disappointed when I was being approached by guys I wasn’t interested in.

When I opened myself up to the idea of dating, I felt that I wasn’t getting the kind of quality guys that I wanted approaching me. I felt at a loss when a part of my life felt very much out of my personal control. I couldn’t force certain men to be interested in me.

I realized that I needed to cultivate my individuality to a point where I was finding the right guys because guys knew who I was.

I made sure to relax. I invested time and energy into my own pursuits while pursuing online dating at the same time. I made sure that online dating took only a fraction of my time and not all of it. I made changes in my daily life that helped me to gain momentum to be healthier and feel more complete as an individual.

There were points where I would feel anger and outrage at the fact that I felt set back in my life that led to a delay in finding a partner. I would see couples that seemed to have it all and reflect back on the fact that I wasn’t even anywhere near finding a partner.

I feel grateful now that dating was a delayed part of my life. I had a lot of time to cultivate my own passions, interests and goals as well as to just have time to think about different aspects of my life. I found that once you get clear on who you are, it becomes easier to pick the person to compliment that.

I feel that if I were to only make dating my focus in my teens and twenties that it would have not made me the person I am today. I had grown up with many females that expressed the desire to be accepted by a male. I feel that this main focus weakens a female’s own identity. A relationship should be balanced with the clarity of each identity and compatibilities as well as life goals.