How Do You Go On A Date?

I used to dream about all of the great things that I could do on a date. I was fortunate enough to have been offered some great experiences. I had been to a highly rated steakhouse. I spent a night watching a grand display of fireworks. I spent the night at a fun carnival going on rides and the ferris wheel. I would go to some random fun locations to do photography.

I wanted unique experiences. I desired to do things that I hadn’t done before. I felt like I was missing out on love and life when these things seemed far away and weren’t exactly knocking on my door. I felt unworthy of what I desired when it seemed like I wasn’t being asked to go on the type of date that I wanted or that I wasn’t meeting the type of guy that I wanted. I thought the Universe should have had my back.

There was a time when I hadn’t been asked on any dates. Zero. For several years, I was used to not being valued or desired. I believed that love was out of reach for good.

I knew that people could change their lives. I knew that there were those out there that had done a total makeover and changed the path in their life. Why couldn’t that be me?

I learned a lot of basic, intermediate and advanced principles on life and love. I found leaders, speakers and people that could guide me and give me more wisdom and knowledge. I made a new environment for myself to set me up to be successful in love.

When I opened myself up to love and felt that I had more choices, I felt that a lot of guys had the wrong ideas towards me. We were struggling to connect on a deep level.

I learned to find out those things about me that I was not able to compromise on. I only agreed to go on a date with a guy that had the right energy and motives. I would let the guy approach me and put the effort in to show me what he thought a good date was. I learned that disappointments in the past did not have to dictate my future and who I would be with.

I learned patience throughout this process. When a guy was not giving me great dating experiences, I learned to create my own and detached from the dating world at times. I learned that men and women are imperfect. We can decide what the result will be if we choose to guide ourselves.