How Do You Make A Long Distance Relationship Work?

I remember when I pursued a relationship before my fiancé. I was trying to find the right person to add to my life. I would talk to guys that seemed to care about what I thought and had to say to them. It would be in the form of online messages or texts to check up on me or to see what I was up to.

I wanted someone to actually live and be in my real life world. Even though I found guys that I could connect with emotionally, I struggled with getting someone to actually take the leap and take action to do something about being with me. I struggled with wanting to know what was actually going on in the guy’s life. The guy could be lying to me all along. I felt like love was physically so far away.

It came to a point where I knew that I needed consistency and to find a guy that was actually going to be in my life. It wasn’t enough for me to just talk to someone anymore.

I realized that I still was on a search to find the right person. I wanted to find the right person that would be there for me through the bad and the good times.

I gauged reactions of the guys that I was talking to and hanging out with. I enjoyed talking about plans, dreams and goals that I had. I looked to my emotions and how I felt in spending time and talking to certain guys.

A lot of the guys just weren’t man enough to take action or be there for me. Usually it would feel like he was trying to fill time when he was bored. Even though there may have been a connection, there was no action taking place in terms of planning trips to see me or following through with plans. There was also many excuses.

If a guy didn’t take me seriously or show me that I was important, I didn’t keep him as my sole focus because he wasn’t making me feel that I was that one person he wanted to be with.

I didn’t hold on to someone that wasn’t showing me that I was valued or important in his life. I had gotten a lot of talk and not enough action. I was able to see that I needed more action and less talk. I learned to be a great communicator, but I was looking for someone to show me more of what I actually meant to them. A lot of guys failed me and disappointed me in this regard, but I kept searching.