How Do You Write A Good Dating Profile?

I had lots of fun creating my dating profiles for apps and sites when I was younger. I felt that I could create a good online presence since I had photography skills and a good writing ability. I appeared creative, visually appealing and smart.

I wanted to have guys coming to my dating profiles so that I had choices. I was getting lots of messages and feedback from my dating profiles, but I did have an overwhelming amount of messages. I wondered who the right person was in all of the communications that I was receiving. I kept thinking that I may never find the right person in all of the messages that I was getting. What if I picked the wrong person? What if these guys were lying to me? I couldn’t be absolutely sure in who these guys were when I was speaking to them.

I had to dive deeper into the minds of the guys that I was actually talking to. This took a lot of my time and energy. I ended up spending several hours of my time with no guarantee of a relationship figuring out who these guys were. Was the guy that was being portrayed online the guy that I was actually talking to?

I realized that it would take time to get to know someone, their patterns and how they viewed life. Some parts of people were more hidden than others intentionally or unintentionally. It was a big decision to find the right partner for me and it required thought.

I got better at picking out guys that I was interested in. I looked at the wordings on their profiles. Were they angry or lashing out at someone or something? Were they pictured doing activities that I liked doing? Could I relate to them? I deleted messages that I wasn’t intrigued or interested in right off the bat.

I felt guilty at times for not responding to messages or talking to guys that really wanted to talk to me. I had limited time and I was only one person.

I remembered my goal in mind to find the right person for me. I became good at creating the right online presence, but I did know that this was only one part of online dating. I did master the very first steps in representing who I was, but mastering communication and getting to know a guy in an authentic way was the next step.

When I became overwhelmed at the importance of this decision to find “the one,” I used meditation, exercise, reading and yoga to help me get balanced again. I treated the search for love as a journey and looked for fun where I could. I enjoyed the journey without being attached to the overall outcome. When you don’t spend time where it matters, you are left with a less desired outcome. I wanted this big decision that I had to make matter in the end.