How Reinventing Myself Reinvented My Relationship

Photo taken by Sara Knick.

Currently, I am in the longest relationship that I have ever been in. My fiancé and I have been together since October 2016. That’s when we started talking to each other. It has been four years coming up on five years. I remember setting up how we would meet each other. I was in a lovely vegan restaurant (that had sadly closed down as of today) and we were making plans to meet to meet at a dog park, which we ended up doing and I brought my dog at the time.

I wanted to feel sure about the future, but I didn’t have a strong support system. I had many good intentions, but I felt that because I had already made bad decisions regarding love in the past that my time had been wasted. I didn’t want to waste any more time.

I had fears about meeting as well as my own thoughts about not being good enough. A part of myself mentally prepared to be left and to just move on because that is what I had been used to.

We’ve been together for four years now! Allowing myself to experience the present moment and only feel what is actually there has been monumental to my relationship success. I was determined to find someone that had similar goals as me, had a genuine interest in me and had all the right relationship qualities.