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How To Choose And Enforce Boundaries In Dating Relationships
All relationships have boundaries. Some boundaries are discussed, others are assumed and some are only discovered when they’ve been crossed.
Boundaries are a way of assuring that your needs are met in a relationship. They are also a way of assuring that your values and expectations aren’t violated. Boundaries can preserve your privacy and independence.
Everyone has boundaries, but few people have the same boundaries and that’s why it’s so important to set the boundaries in your dating relationship.
Consider your boundaries in these areas:
1. Financial. Who is going to pay for what? How much will you spend on birthdays and Christmas? How much is too much? Should everything be split 50:50? Does the man pay for everything? Does the person with the larger salary carry the brunt of the load?
There are no right or wrong answers as long as both parties are in agreement.
2. Work. Does work always take precedence? Should a career-minded partner be willing to skip working evenings to spend time with the other person? For some people, work is an unnecessary evil that funds the rest of their life. For others, it is their life.
