How To Deal With A Guy Who Can’t Take A Hint

I’ve dealt with many guys that came on very strong in real life and online. It came off like they thought that I would be so into them that I wouldn’t reject them. I don’t take interest in guys that seem to forcefully flirt or look like they have a point to prove.

I wanted to be with a guy that had his wits about him, but was cool, calm and collected. I felt that guys that “came on too strong” were exerting more effort than their normal selves and it seemed disingenuous to me. I felt like some sort of prize to be won instead of being recognized as a human being with an emotional range of feelings.

A lot of guys didn’t put forth the effort to get to know me. I knew when a guy wasn’t trying to get to know me. It was very frustrating and demeaning to me. I felt that my looks were only one facet of who I was, but not everything.

Every guy has a different motive and energy to him. If he doesn’t try to get to know you, he’s not looking for a long term relationship at that point.

I looked at the guy’s body language, paid attention to what questions he asked and gauged his responses to what I was saying. I looked for a guy who took a genuine interest in what I had to say.

I found that a lot of guys that I had talked to were wanting to rush the situation and get what they wanted quickly. This is a definite turn off. I could tell by many silences and unintelligent responses that the guy was not interested in developing anything worthwhile with me.

I knew where I stood and when I was approached by a guy that I wasn’t interested in, I either ignored him in real life or blocked him online if he was being too forceful. He needs to give me a good reason to give him attention. That reason for me was being valued for everything that wasn’t seen… my talents, skills and abilities.

I gained patience and respect for myself because I knew that I had much more than just superficial beauty. I answered these questions in my encounters: Does a guy react to my looks right away and only talk about them? Does a guy engage in meaningful conversation that allows me to see his intelligence? I was looking for substance. This was of value to me. I looked for how a guy reacted to me and the conversation that he initiated to determine if I felt that I would like to get to know this person more.