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How To Deal With Breaking Up When You’re Still In Love
Breaking up is even sadder when you’re still in love with your soon-to-be ex. However, parting ways may sometimes be a sound decision.
The harsh truth is that a healthy relationship requires more than love. You need to be compatible and respectful towards each other.
Even if you seem like a great match, you may be at different stages of life and pursuing conflicting goals. Maybe you want to settle down and start a family, but your partner wants to buy a boat and sail the world.
You can hold on to fond memories of each other even when your lives are heading in opposite directions.
Try these ideas for helping you to deal with your breakup and build a brighter future.
Short-Term Steps:
1. Seek support. Ask your family and friends for the help you need. Talk with them in advance about your plans so they can be there for you. Let them know when you’re looking for a shoulder to cry on or a pep talk to get you moving.
2. Limit contact. You may eventually decide to be friends with your ex, but you’ll both benefit from keeping your distance for now. That includes offline and online communications.
3. Lighten your load. Give yourself an opportunity to vent your feelings and start…
