How To Deal With Strong Feelings: Remaining Friends, But Wanting More

I received a very lengthy message last night from a member of one of my private groups. Here was the message… “Hey Sara, hope you had a wonderful new year and happy holidays. Had a question regarding a woman I am speaking with. Her and I have been good friends the past couple of months, we go out on dinner dates and watch movies together, etc etc etc. We had made it clear to one another that we would just remain friends. With that being said, she continuously holds hands with me, see each other 2–4 times a week. I believe I have stronger feelings for her than what she feels for me. Any insight or clarity you can provide for me? Also, thank you so much for even allowing me to ask this sort of question and allowing me into the group!”

He wants more from this woman, but there had already been an agreement to be friends. He’s experiencing a desire to want to continue moving forward and feeling more intimacy with this woman on a personal level, but he’s feeling conflicted with the agreement about being this woman’s friend and dealing with the feelings that he’s experiencing.

You can’t move forward with what you want if the other person had not agreed to it. If your love goal is to have a serious relationship, you cannot ever get there if the woman that you are spending time with is not comfortable with…