How To Determine Your True Relationship Status

Sometimes when people hear that you are single, they can start to feel bad for you or engage you in a discussion regarding future relationship decisions. There is this idea associated with being single that you are automatically alone and unhappy. This is not always the case.

People try to strive to be in a state of happiness, but being in a relationship does not always make you happy. You can end up feeling more alone if you feel trapped or a lack of freedom in a relationship.

If you feel alone being single and you are not embracing your energy, you will likely attract someone that will not match with the true essence of your energy. If you do not feel whole and happy within your own self, you will still feel alone even if you choose to be with another person.

Determine your true relationship status. You may be single and happy. You may be single and unhappy. You may be dating and happy. You may be dating and unhappy. You may be in a relationship and happy. You may be in a relationship and unhappy. Being with another person does not automatically equal happiness.

Being in a relationship is challenging. I spent many years being single, but I owned it. I wasn’t afraid of being labelled as single. I felt strong and independent using that label. I did not agree to settle for someone that didn’t impress me. My fiancé had a lot of traits that I liked and was able to impress me in his communication when we were first talking. I did not agree to be with him just because I was looking for a void to fill. I felt whole within myself and was looking to add to my life with a relationship. Look at your happiness level and that will guide you. Are you single because you want to be? Are you dating because your mom told you to and because she wants you to have kids by a certain age? Is the relationship that you have currently fulfilling you? All answers will be individual. It is important to take an honest look at the motives driving you in your current relationship status.

You may feel that you were happier and better off being single. Perhaps life has its responsibilities stacked up against you now. You have to take care of your husband and kids now. It feels all too much as your own happiness deteriorates.

Our emotional state in whatever relationship status we find ourselves in is the key to knowing if something is right for us or not. Feeling happy and confident in the single life lets us know that we are feeling good in that choice. We can also feel good in a relationship that we’ve chosen to be a part of. The choice is up to us.

People may have their opinions of what we should or should not do, but at the end of the day, it is our choice how we want to spend our time. No one is living our lives but us. It may be extremely difficult for another person to understand why we live our lives the way that we do. That’s okay. I’ve been asked several times why I was single and didn’t have kids and then given reasons why I should have them. I knew within myself that I would not be happy making that choice. My intuition guided me towards the right choices for me and I did not acquiesce to any outside opinions. Whatever relationship status you choose, make sure that you are happy with it.