How To Fight Fairly In Relationships

All relationships have disagreements. When disagreements occur, fighting fairly can ensure that the situation improves rather than deteriorates. It’s not easy to remain calm and polite when you feel you’ve been wronged. The alternative doesn’t provide for a positive outcome, at least not for long.

Fight fairly and your relationship will endure challenging times!

Try these techniques:

1. Listen. You can’t fight fairly if you don’t understand your partner’s point of view. Talk less, listen more. Keep your self-talk to a minimum. When you’re listening to yourself, you can’t be listening to anyone else.

Take turns speaking. Let your partner say their piece and then respond. You’ll have plenty of time to get your point across.

Ask open-ended questions to ensure you have the full story.

2. Be kind. You won’t accomplish anything by being unkind. You might be seeing red, but your words shouldn’t convey that sentiment.

If you can’t be kind, consider postponing the discussion for another time.

Most disagreements can wait.

3. Avoid making assumptions. It’s easy to think you already understand the issue completely. Your partner may have a completely different perspective. You don’t know…