How To Get Better At Receiving Love

Sometimes life can bring us down and we are struggling with our responses in terms of how to move forward. I’ve shut myself off from receiving love before mentally and emotionally in an effort to protect myself from being hurt again. As humans we want to protect ourselves from perceived harm or danger.

I wanted to receive love, but I did not want to experience any negativity from someone’s “baggage” or past. I felt that love put me in a vulnerable place because someone could just decide to stop being with me for numerous reasons. I felt weak and powerless whenever I met someone new because I felt that there was nothing I could do if he decided to “let me go.”

I experienced a lot of waves of anxiety and depression over who I was already over parts of my past that I could not overcome.

I had to accept myself first before potentially being accepted by anyone else.

I kept an open dialogue when I was dating. I wasn’t tied to any particular outcome. I never allowed myself to become so enamored that I was sacrificing parts of myself or what I liked.

When I was emotionally invested in a particular guy, I found that it was harder to let go of my feelings for that person who decided to move on.

I learned a more free flowing way to deal with love. I learned to let go of it and I learned to allow it to come into my life. I follow the belief that we are all universally connected. If someone chooses to leave your life, they are meant to leave it for that time.

I learned to not limit myself in terms of what love could look like. I learned that I should not let my emotions from my past determine my future. I also learned that I couldn’t cling onto love from the past when it doesn’t serve me anymore. Receiving love means that you are actively being loved in the present to move towards a future with someone. When you have nothing to build on and you are just trying to get a feeling, you should just let that person go. Receive love from a place of having a solid foundation and values, spending quality time together and having worthwhile goals. I recognized that feelings and love can complement one another, but if you are only addicted to a feeling then you need to be aware that the potential relationship you are seeking will fall apart. Feelings are fleeting and there needs to be other pieces to support the relationship.