How To Overcome A Lack Of Confidence In Love
I’ve learned that if you don’t have knowledge and experience, you will easily lack confidence. The energy and passion that you start with on a new path can help carry you through. Practice makes perfect. Doing the same things over and over will make you an expert. This applies to a lot in life, but it also applies to love.
People want to be confident with themselves as well as in their love lives, but many people either do not have a lot of successful experiences in love, have given up or don’t know where to start. When we experience failure or rejection in a love situation, we feel discouraged and defeated. It can ruin our self-esteem if we put all of our effort into a relationship hoping for the best outcome just to be dumped or feel a lack of reciprocity in the end.
The way that we view failure and rejection can keep us stuck. If we believe that there is something wrong with us, we will continue to live with a lack of confidence. Maybe we believe that we aren’t pretty enough, strong enough or smart enough to be with someone. Maybe a partner in a past relationship eroded our self-esteem.
Confidence does not have to be loud or obnoxious. It can be the simple idea that we hold of knowing who we are and what we will accept or not accept in our lives. It is the determination that we have to guide our future and showing that we know what is best for us.
The Bustle website has an article called, “How To Build Confidence In Love” written by Lindsay Tigar. It goes over six ways to build confidence in love. The first way is to date yourself. The second is to spend time with happy couples. The third is to write down your patterns. The fourth is to go out with your complete opposite. The fifth is to be mindful of your company. The sixth is to choose love. We should allow ourselves to focus on the positive parts of our love lives and what we have learned. What we focus on will grow and manifest into our lives.
You may have depression or anxiety that is difficult to overcome in meeting new personalities. In meeting new people comes new unpredictabilities. The thought of even beginning something new may be too much because of the hyperawareness of your perceived flaws or the fear of not being accepted.
A lack of confidence in love stems from a lack of mastery of self or a lack of clarity with your wants and needs. If we’ve allowed outside opinions to sway us, it becomes harder to know what we want because we’ve allowed our internal self to be changed from other people. Acknowledge your intuitive responses to people and know how you want to proceed forward in love.
Being aware of your dating patterns and understanding what “mistakes” may have been made is integral to freeing yourself from cycles of behavior. I don’t personally have the belief that there are mistakes. We may experience unwanted feelings and results from our behavior, but the increased awareness of what we are doing and why will free us in the end. In gaining increased clarity for ourselves of why we want love and what we want our love lives to look like, we will master our own love lives.
