How To Show Him You Love Him

Every guy will react and respond differently to the gesture that you make because of his personality and what he likes. I enjoyed giving surprises and gifts in my relationships. One time I made a huge candy bar posterboard with other non-food surprises that had words on it for a guy’s birthday. I gave another guy some random funny shirts.

I wanted to make an impression and be remembered, but I didn’t know if what I was doing was enough. I felt happy and excited to show a guy that I was into him, but I didn’t know if it would be enough in the end to secure a love future with that person.

When it felt like I was dating someone, I was really happy and excited about it. I tried not to be too overpowering in my emotions, but I was naturally spontaneous, elevated in my emotions and ready for adventure in whatever form that would take. This was too much for a lot of guys.

I loved who I was and I saw each day as an opportunity to create my own story and journey. I needed someone who was comfortable with my “over the top” ways and personality.

I would continue to express how I felt in text messages, phone calls, gestures, gifts and meetups. I didn’t stop being myself and accepted that I had a lively exuberant personality. Gifts were my favorite way of expressing love because I enjoyed gifts, but I did enjoy meetups where I would hang out at different places with the guy. I liked different and new ways of spending time with another person and seeing how he felt in different environments. I’ve spent my time with a guy in various photography shoots… hanging out at a farm with a peacock… and even going on motorcycle rides.

The guys that really enjoyed spontaneity and adventure were not showing me that I was the only one they wanted to be with… that I was the only one for them… even when we had great times together. They didn’t jump at the chance to be with me long term.

I learned to live in the moment a lot of the times. I don’t have any regrets about what I wish would happen or about what I wanted to do. I expressed myself at different moments in time in my past based on how I felt and what was going on.

I realize that there are many ways to show love. I show love in different and more commons ways to my current partner. A lot of my love gestures include spending time together, texting my partner, listening to my partner, doing chores and holding my partner’s hand. Although it does not sound super exciting, I found what was meaningful to both of us as we go through life working on reaching our goals and doing better for ourselves.