“I am so lost through this break up. Can anybody read my life & tell me what the future holds for me?”

I was being asked a question on Quora that went like this, “I am so lost through this break up. Can anybody read my life & tell me what the future holds for me?” This person was desperate for answers. This person had lost the sense of self. The present moment was too much to handle and there was a strong desire to rush into the future.

People want a good future for themselves, but may not be doing the right things in the present moment to get themselves there. They don’t want to end up alone or have life close in on them and have misfortune headed their way.

Being on the receiving end of a break up, you feel that you are worse off than when you were in a relationship with someone. You feel that your time has been wasted. You don’t know where to find the strength to pick yourself up emotionally. You question who you are. You are in a state of confusion and frustration.

Clarity about ourselves is just about the only thing that we can grasp. We may not ever understand another person’s reasons for why they had left us. The closure for ourselves about a break up comes in the form of healing and clarification about who we are and defining our wants, needs and boundaries. Creating a great future for ourselves starts with accepting and changing the present moments of our lives.

Here’s an important question to ask yourself after a break up: What do you need to get clear on…