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Indecisiveness & Reciprocity In Relationships
There were points in my life when I couldn’t make up my mind. I didn’t know what I wanted. There were points when I knew that I didn’t want to date. There were points in my life when I knew that I didn’t want to be committed to a particular partner.
I wanted stability and security in a relationship, but the guys that I was dating would say that they wanted one thing and then “bounce” or “disappear” almost entirely. It was an aggravating situation to know that my intentions were good and that I knew that I was a good person, but it was not seen or valued.
There were many times when I was indecisive in love. There were also times when I wanted things to work out and I was dealing with an indecisive partner. They were afraid of the pressure and limitations from what a commitment would bring.
You can never create a true commitment to someone if you are going back and forth mentally about who is the best choice for your partner. This means that you haven’t found this person yet.
Be true to yourself and the other person. Be open about your desires. I was open about the fact that I was looking for a committed relationship in my…
