It Caused Around $20,000 In Damages.

Yesterday I talked about what happened when my property and house was damaged and how my fiancé and I were affected. The blog post was called “What Do You Do When Your Relationship Is Struggling?” I remember before work I had gotten out my DSLR camera and took video of footage from my garage and around my house. It felt like a war scene, but only my home was affected.

I wanted to know how this had all happened, but I knew I wouldn’t get all of the answers that I wanted to hear. I’ve never been drunk driving and I was always careful to be mindful of other people so that crazy accidents like this would not happen. I felt that it wasn’t fair for me to have to deal with someone else’s mess. This accident was a result of gross negligence. I felt that I did not deserve this!

I wanted everything to just get fixed already so I wouldn’t have to look at the destruction of my property anymore. Every time I entered or exited my house, I was reminded of someone who didn’t care about me or that my house was utterly destroyed. It was like my emotions were all over the place last summer.

I looked at the things that I was grateful for that I had going for me. I was grateful for my fiancé. I was grateful that my fiancé and I were not killed or injured at the time this accident happened. I was grateful that my home insurance covered the damage costs.

I planned a couple really nice things to do last summer. On one vacation, I went up north in Michigan with my fiancé to do Pictured Rocks Kayaking. Pictured Rocks National Lakeshore is a very famous area in Michigan. It was amazing. I’ve always wanted to do kayaking in that specific area and I finally did. It helped me to get in touch with nature and rebalance myself. I got to see an area of Michigan in a really unique way with the person that I loved.

Coming back home, the mess was still there. The heavy scent of burning and car fluids splattered everywhere was still over the fence, the house and my fiancé’s deformed car. The mess in my garage was still there. Car parts had flown through the garage door and utterly destroyed the garage door frame. Remnants of the horrific accident was still there.

Everything got fixed piece by piece until there was nothing left to fix. I overcame my feelings of anxiety and depression over this mess. I had to still take time for myself when needed because it was not going to get fixed in a day. I looked after myself and my mental health so that I felt empowered.

I learned patience, acceptance and rebuilding after loss. I was patient with fixing areas piece by piece. I accepted that this tragedy had happened on my property. I learned more control over my emotions. I learned that it was essential at this time to take care of myself. I grappled with my own emotions of the loss of my property. I felt like I was cleaning up somebody else’s mess, but I realized that we are all impacted by each other’s actions. It was a good lesson in connection and understanding that our actions can directly impact each other whether we know them or not… even though I did not know this man, he affected my life. I had a choice on how I was going to react and respond to it.