Judgment vs. Love

Sometimes we hear phrases like, “Don’t judge me” or “Stop judging other people,” but we need to form some types of judgment about others in order to make healthy choices in our love lives. All judging is is forming an opinion or a conclusion about someone or something. We have to make judgments in order to choose the right path for us. If we never formed judgments, we would never be able to make the right decisions in the way of love.

People want acceptance, but they fear judgment. Being judged negatively can hurt our feelings or self esteem. We can feel worthless or devalued when we are judged unfairly.

When it comes to love, we have to make judgments in order to continue seeing someone or ending a relationship. When we make judgments about a dating partner or potential dating partner with no basis in reality for those judgments, we can stop ourselves from experiencing potential joy in a relationship meant for us.

Making healthy judgments in love and the dating world leads to healthy decisions and in this way, we can create the healthy relationship that we desire. Acceptance of what is not good for us leads to letting others overstep our boundaries as well as the degradation of our authenticity. If something doesn’t feel right to us and we allow it to be in our lives, we are agreeing to misalignment.