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Make Love Work The Second Time Around
If you’re considering reuniting with an ex-partner, there are many challenges to navigate. You’ll want to evaluate whether getting back together is a positive decision for both of you. Then, it also takes constructive effort to make your reunion work. These suggestions can help you through this process.
Deciding to Get Back Together
1. Know the odds. By some estimates, 60% of remarriages end in divorce so be realistic about your chances. You could still be among the 40% that work so that is all that matters for your own future.
2. Give yourself some breathing space. Take time to reflect. It’s often easier to look at the situation more accurately when you have some time to yourself compared to when you and your partner may have been getting on each other’s nerves daily.
3. Assess the reasons why you parted. Some factors, like domestic violence, are clear signals that you’re probably better off on your own.
On the other hand, if your relationship disintegrated under the stress of job loss or the death of a loved one, you might bounce back once you address the underlying issue.
4. Watch out for loneliness. It’s natural to want your old life back especially if you’re uncomfortable being alone or have a string of disappointing dates. Analyze your motives…
