Mental Abuse: An Inside Look

Mental abuse is hard to detect on the outside. You can’t see it. The one who uses mental abuse may be very intelligent on when to break someone down… when no one else is around. These abusers may have a great public persona, but say horrible things to his or her partner when no one else is around.

People want desirable partners, but signs of mental abuse can show up later on with a partner that you hadn’t expected. If you hadn’t been expecting your partner to start treating you badly, you may be shocked, confused or second guessing yourself as to why you are being treated negatively. You may start to think that you deserve it if you keep yourself tied to this person and accept any further mental abuse without setting boundaries of acceptable behavior.

If you were used to your partner being kind and caring to you when you met him or her, you may have not been expecting your partner to talk down to you or treat you in such a harsh manner later on. It may be hard to find out who this person really is or why this person is doing this. You may be in a battle of deciding whether to stay or to go.

Fear is a powerful emotion. Control and the need for control tends to come out of fear. If a partner tries to scare you as a means of control, you are most likely not going to leave if you don’t believe in yourself enough. Degrading your state of being and…