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Read This If You’re Afraid To Love
A fear of love can express itself in many different ways.
You might sit at home on Saturday nights and refuse to let your friends set you up. On the other hand, you might participate on a dozen dating platforms and meet someone for coffee at least three times a week.
While these may sound like two opposite extremes, the outcomes are usually the same. Your defenses keep you from developing an intimate relationship.
Before you can change, it’s important to be aware of how you sabotage your romantic life. Find out what’s keeping you from falling in love.
Altering Your Thoughts:
1. Review your history. Think about your childhood and past relationships. Look for defense mechanisms that you formed in your early years and are ready to drop now. Spot patterns that you want to change.
2. Accept your feelings. A fear of love often involves trying to avoid strong emotions. Remember that running away from sadness also means missing out on joy.
3. Boost your confidence. Learning to live with strong emotions will make you more resilient. Each time you put yourself in situations that make you anxious, you see proof that you can deal with them successfully.
