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Instagram is one of my favorite places to get inspired. There’s short pieces of advice. There’s short stories. There’s lots of photography. I’m a visual person. I love to see what’s going on in people’s lives and what has been captured visually.
Sometimes we want to hold onto the good moments and the good memories forever with that amazing elevated feeling that it gives us, but sudden changes may occur or unexpected setbacks come up in our lives. Maybe we feel triumph and that everything’s going good, but then we get hit with an unexpected setback like a large bill sent to us or having our car break down on us. Our mood can change from triumphant and confident into miserable and somber.
If we have too many setbacks in a relationship, we may feel trapped and isolated in a way that configures our mindset to that of losing a battle and our future conforms to that losing mindset.
Celebrating the good moments and the good times is really important. Being proud of them and sharing your happiness with others lets others know that love exists! It’s inspirational.
I love taking pictures with my fiancé and sharing pictures in the online space! I like using Facebook and Instagram mostly. It solidifies the amazing times we’ve had. I’ve enjoyed the process of photography as an art. I also like envisioning the type of relationship that I want. I like to check out ideas on Pinterest and come up with my own plans of what I would like to do with my fiancé. It could be simple or elaborate. There are so many options and possibilities out there to fill the time.
Even with some of the best intentions that a person can have, there can be a lack of harmony. There are activities that one person may like more than the other person. The amount of interaction and engagement may be lower at different points during time spent together. Someone may be “all in” and be connected and listening while the other may be preoccupied mentally or not as interested in what’s going on. Lack of connection can hurt.
It is important to come up with a good plan on how time is spent. If realistically someone can only tolerate certain activities within a certain time frame, respect that and communicate what your desire is in spending time together. Maybe you spend segments of time together and other segments of time apart. Knowing your limits and your partner’s limits is healthy. Being able to not force expectations onto the other person is bound to allow more happiness. Sometimes we can only handle so much.
Forcing certain expectations onto someone will not promote happiness. We are all human beings experiencing a range of emotions. You may be in the headspace of enjoyment and wanting to share an experience with your partner, but having an understanding of where your partner is at mentally instead of imposing happiness or a sense of an expectation will result in a much more dynamic and healthy relationship.
