The Biggest Mistake That I’ve Made In Love

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Love is chased in different ways. From person to person, love as an idea can vary. What inspires and motivates one person may not drive another person in the same way. We all have our own needs and wants. What do you do when you show someone that you love them, but it isn’t reciprocated with the same effort as what you are putting in?

When I was with a guy, I wanted to let that guy know that I valued him. I would be confused when I wouldn’t get the same effort that I was putting in. I was wondering why I wouldn’t get the same sparkling and energetic responses back from a relationship. Maybe he didn’t know that I was into him? Maybe he didn’t feel the same way? Maybe there were other issues?

I wasn’t quite sure of what certain guys were thinking when I was with them. When I thought I got it all figured out, it seemed that the romance ended and it was hard to keep their attention.

I was used to putting too much effort in with little to no reciprocation back. Years ago it hadn’t even occurred to me to assess this particular aspect of any relationship, but what good is a relationship if you don’t get what you originally were looking for?

I had to look into why I was holding certain guys “on pedestals.” I would really like certain ones because of certain parts about them. One was amazingly artistic…