What Are Your Love Goals?
I learned that if you want to achieve something, you need to take action. Having goals without doing anything to get towards them will leave you stuck. I don’t often hear the words “love goals” put together, but at one point, I did have to make some love goals in order to know where I was going.
At one point, I knew that I wanted to be with someone that I loved that wanted to be with me long term, but I didn’t know how to find that person. I wanted to stop feeling like I was unworthy of love. I wanted support in a healthy way.
No matter how many guys I talked to, it seemed like I was wasting my time and I wasn’t getting anywhere. I opened up a lot of avenues online by creating profiles to allow myself to get more messages.
I needed to get clear on who I wanted in my life. I needed to get clear on defining what characteristics made up the man that I was going to spend my life with.
I created a love dream board with pictures and visuals. On the back, I listed different categories: Emotional Maturity, Intellectual Maturity, Spiritual Maturity, Physical Aspects, Things I’m Willing To Compromise On and Things I Will Not Compromise On (The Deal Killers). I got clear on who I wanted in my life and it became easier to decline dates because of this. I felt confident.
I met a guy that physically fit what I wanted and I thought we were going to have a great future. Looking back, he didn’t have a strong sense of Emotional Maturity and Spiritual Maturity, which is what I needed. He dumped me.
I created a new love dream board and didn’t let this perceived “failure” get me down. I allowed myself to be open to new opportunities and new dates.
Years ago even though I hadn’t met the guy yet that saw my value and what I had to offer to the world didn’t mean that he did not exist. I got clear on who he was before I met him. It was about knowing the right energy. I meditated and spent time to put myself in the right energy so that I could recognize him when he came.