What Is Wholeness?
I’ve recognized wholeness of myself later on past my 20s as I was able to gain more experience, education and value of who I am. Sometimes I’ve met guys in the dating world that I absolutely knew were not for me upon us meeting. Sometimes I felt repelled instantly from their energy.
It is commonly recommended that people understand themselves first before venturing off into a new relationship, but a lot of people will only have a limited view within their scope of understanding. They may possibly think that they are whole, but then come to find out that they are not if they get into a relationship that turns bad. The feeling of entrapment and horror may ensue as someone may not know how to get out of a relationship that may have been set up to fill a void within himself or herself. This person may realize this fact too late in the love game.
When you feel anxious, lonely and depressed spending time by yourself, that is a hint that you are not whole. You may venture out to obtain the solution by going on dates and attempting to fix your emotional issues through another person’s more elevated emotional state.
Our identity can be shaped in new ways throughout time. Sometimes we can be uncomfortable with who we are or how we are being viewed by others. When we can be still and at peace with the facts of who we are, it is more likely that other people’s opinions and perspectives will not bother us.
The Tiny Buddha website has an article called, “How to Be Whole on Your Own and How This Strengthens Your Relationships” by Linda Carroll that details five different ways that can help us find our wholeness. The first way is to spend quality time with yourself. The second is to balance your self-esteem with your self-criticism. The third is to find a practice that centers you. The fourth is to take an inventory of where you are right now and explore it in your mind. The fifth is to develop a daily gratitude practice and appreciate yourself.
If we realize that we may not be whole within ourselves and have some work to do, we may revert to old habits and familiar ways. It may be hard for us to face our emotions or our past. We may be down on ourselves or the simple fact of being alone for long periods of time may conjure up feelings of embarrassment or resentment around other people and so we seek fulfillment outside of our internal selves.
The Lonerwolf website describes wholeness in an amazing way. It goes on to say that wholeness is the feeling of fullness, vastness, and completion. It is the experience of embodying our true nature. When we have done that in an authentic way, we will not feel resistance or our emotions battling us. We will accept our true identity and use that as a compass to move through life and make our decisions without question.
Self discovery is a process. We shouldn’t be afraid of it. Sometimes people are afraid of their own emotions or the unknown. Self discovery in the process of becoming whole means that we discover the unknown about ourselves. The goal is accepting our true identity. When we know who we are, there is no stopping us.
