What Makes Breaking Up In A Civil Manner So Difficult?

When I was on Quora, I answered the question of “What makes breaking up in a civil manner so difficult?” I’ve never had a break up in which I destroyed someone’s property or had a screaming match with the other person. I’ve always felt that it’s not worth it to waste your energy on somebody who doesn’t value you.

People want to be informed and in the know, but sometimes we are blindsided when there’s decisions that are made by others and we are left behind in the process, such as with a break up. We are left picking up the pieces of our lives with a feeling of sadness as well as with an injustice that we feel from feeling that we have been wronged.

We develop a feeling of distrust around people if we’ve experienced situations where people or our partner leaves us unexpectedly. When we have spent our energy and time showing that someone is meaningful in our lives without it being reciprocated in the long run, it can be hurtful. We may look to avoid people altogether if we’ve been hurt enough.

Emotions are powerful. If you don’t have a handle on them, you just may do things that seem out of character compared with your usual self. TV shows depict break ups to be very wild. Household items can be thrown. There are acts of revenge done to people’s property. Real life break ups can still make us feel like we want to do terrible things to “get even,” but silence can speak even louder than these acts. We need to gain acceptance for another’s decisions and move on.