What Should You Do If You’re Not Wanted By The One You Love Anymore?

In 2015, I started talking to a guy. We developed a habit of seeing each other on the weekends and would plan fun things to do. We had seen a play, went out to different restaurants, went to the carnival, went to the mall and made recipes at his home. It was really fun hanging out until he just decided to break it off.

He wanted children, but I didn’t. Our life goals were different. I had to let this connection go because it wasn’t going where he wanted it to go long term. I spent several weeks in depression trying to figure out how to rebuild myself and find my happiness again.

I loved the activities that we planned and being in the moment, but he wanted it to lead to more. It wasn’t just about having fun. It was like an enticement to getting what he wanted. I didn’t feel that he was doing all of this “just because.”

What I loved about us being together was the excitement in general. It was the feeling of what was going to happen next. When I gave myself time to look at this man, I realized that our overall goals were different. I didn’t want to fill a typical role as a mother or a housewife. That was not enticing to me.