“When Are You Having Kids?”
Over the past decade, I had been asked several times when I am having kids. I had been asked by exes as well as co-workers that I used to work with. I had even been asked by a neighbor. When people found out that I didn’t want kids or have kids, they tried to find out what was “wrong” with me or find out why I didn’t want them.
People are curious and try to relate to other people for the most part, but they may pass harsh judgment if there are other people not living lives like themselves. Being judged by people that do not understand your life can be hurtful, depressing and make you feel angry.
There are people that will not accept you if you think vastly different from them or live your life in a different way. They may come up with their own reasons why you are the way that you are. If you are a female and do not have kids, you may not have much in common with those that have kids or be “accepted” and “understood” by females that have kids.
The fact is that having kids is a personal choice and should be made privately. It is not open for public debate. Unless someone is willing to provide help to you or support for you, there is no reason why you should have to answer why or why not you are having kids. No one owns your uterus, but you.
Stick with open minded people. Be proud of your life’s accomplishments. Create your own life journey. Make memories. Live out your life purpose. Don’t listen to judgments. Be accepted by those around you that understand you. Be happy.
You will get people that will not understand you or your choices. They may not understand your reasoning. They may have a totally different mindset. They may have different life goals.
Pleasing people is a slippery slope. You will end up neglecting your own wants and needs to end up making choices that don’t suit you. Happiness is a good goal to have in mind. It is no one’s business to know when you are having kids or if you are going to have kids. Rushing into love just for the sake of having kids is the worst move you could make. Don’t be rushed. Take your time.
There are many opinions and judgments floating around. Do you want to be happy or do you want to spend your life doing things to make other people happy? You may want kids. You may not. You should be accepted for whatever answer you give.