Would You Marry For Love Or For Money?

Back in high school, I thought about this question: Would you marry for love or for money? It came up somehow. I went to a private high school so people did have money where I went. I knew that I would only marry for love if the opportunity presented itself. I noticed a couple of things in dating. Some men relied on money for women to be attracted to them. Some men who had money were boring and not interesting enough. Some men who had it didn’t let it affect who they were as people.

A lot of people want to get closer to the luxurious lifestyle themselves, but don’t know how to get there. They want to feel comfortable and good about themselves. A feeling of acceptance and high status becomes appealing when you’ve struggled all of your life to make ends meet.

In marrying someone only for love, you may attach yourself to the feelings that you get from being with a person. At this point, you may not be fixed in reality and may not have all that you need to have a stable relationship. On the opposite end, if you marry someone only for the money that they have, you may have no feelings or love for this person and think that it is your ticket out of a boring or struggling life. If you focus on one or the other too much, you will encounter issues.

Financial stability is healthy. Experiencing a connection is healthy. Having both financial stability and connection in a relationship is healthy.

Challenge yourself to answer the following questions: What do I value most about this person? Would I enjoy spending time with this person even if we encountered financial challenges? Am I in love with who this person is or what he or she can offer me?

We will encounter challenges with our partner. If we base our relationship on the wrong motives, it will most likely fall apart. There may be times that our partner cannot provide what we were originally in the relationship for.

Having a strong marriage starts with two people that have compatible qualities that will carry them through the ups and downs. The person that you are will determine how you handle the downs that come up in life. It is easier to go through the downs when you have someone that supports and values you for the person that you are.

It starts with honesty and the right motives in love to have a relationship that is worthwhile. If we feel no true value or meaning with the direction we are headed, all of the money in the world can’t save us. Money isn’t bad. Sometimes it hurts to not have either money or love, but how we go about attaining each is indicative of who we are and speaks about our own qualities as people.